"Third times a charm" was not the case for us. It felt like a cruel joke as we sat in the same office, on the same pleather chairs, hearing the same words, from the same man. I felt myself stiffen when he suggested that we should take some time before we tried for another baby. The very thought caused a short circuit in my heart.

With the lack of oxygen to my brain I began to feel dizzy. Being the person that I am, and like most men, instantaneously a thousand ‘whatifs’ began to manifest inside my head. Whatif I’m a horrible father? Whatif I do things wrong? Whatif my life changes? Whatif I won’t have the time to complete everything I want to do?

Sometimes, having to make the decision not to have children is far more difficult than having them at all.

From the annals of “Really—you can’t be serious, can you?” comes a twist on human procreation so shallow it makes Heidi Montag look like Maya Angelou: an online sperm bank where the donors must be certifiably beautiful.

"Pregnancy brain" is a myth. Say what? [ParentDish]

This is the first in a series of submission from The Momoir Project, all of which focus on finding the right number of children for each respective writer's family.